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How many people do you know that do what they love for a living?

I’m not talking about someone who loves water-skiing on weekends – and works 80 hours a week in a job they hate to be able to do that.

I’m not talking about someone who loves to exercise and get to squeeze in a run a week because that’s the only time for it.

And I’m not talking about someone who loves coaching people and does that after-hours, alongside their ‘day job’ that they can’t wait to get away from.

I’m not talking about doing what you love part-time; I’m talking about doing what you truly, deeply and madly love for a living and for that to be the core around which everything else centers?!

Can you imagine what the world would be like if more people did that?  Think about it … it would change everything – it must!

‘The ABC To Doing What You Love’ is coming to Sydney, Australia on 13 July and to London, UK on 13 August.

If you know there’s more to life than sitting it out in a job you don’t like and if you’ve had enough of waiting that things will somehow change all by themselves, then visit http://www.deepliving.com/abc now and register.

If you’ve trained with me before then you’ll know that you’re not in for a lecture or a seminar; you’re in for an experience.  And ‘The ABC’ even comes with 100% money back guarantee so you really have nothing to lose … except your limitations.

Visit http://www.deepliving.com/abc for more details.

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How comfortable are you with receiving appreciation? 

I thought I was – after years of practice! – until this week when my phone rang.  I saw who it was: someone that I recently got to know and with whom I’m really enjoying a connection with.

You know when conversations with someone flow easily, when it’s easy to make yourself at home in their home, where you put on the kettle and open the fridge and it feels like you’ve been friends for a long time?  Well, it’s been like that.

Turns out they were calling to appreciate me.  Having just read Nancy Kline’s chapter in ‘Time to Think’ on appreciation I was especially conscious of not interrupting, not rejecting it, of just listening, of just being with his appreciation.  And still, I noticed that I was getting nervous; I noticed how I got up, how I started walking around the room, then to the room next door, then around the house!

I stuck with the discomfort.  I brought my body to a standstill.  I listened as best I could.  Then at the end, I said ‘Thank you for that beautiful blessing, I very much appreciate it’.

That was it.

Nothing else needed to be said.

I didn’t have to launch into immediate tit-for-tat reciprocal appreciation. I didn’t have to minimize or reject their view of me or put myself down – which so many people do with ‘innocent’ phrases like ‘Oh it was nothing’ or ‘Flattery will get you everywhere’.

What they told me was, after all, the way they see me.

Why would you do anything but listen, and accept, and appreciate the appreciation?

Here’s my challenge to you if you’re up for it … the next time someone gives you appreciation, no matter how big the temptation to deflect, ignore or trivialise, how about just listening, and when they’re done, saying ‘Thank you’?

Do it and let me know how it changes everything.  It must.

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• Do you ever wonder if everything is really possible?
• Do you believe that ‘stuff just happens’ and is it your experience that life is something that happens ‘TO’ you’?
• Do you think that ‘anything is possible’ means that you must be able to do everything?

Of course I cannot prove I that anything is possible, just like I cannot prove that the sun will come up tomorrow.  I do, however, find both these beliefs useful and empowering!

A short while ago I found myself running 4 websites, 2 membership programmes, hosting multiple webinars, training events and workshops, doing private client sessions as well as doing most of the ‘behind the scenes’ admin in my business.

Then a single question by a friend led me to close down 2 of those sites. Shortly after, I appointed more people to help me run things. Then someone’s comment on the importance of being focused led me to stop doing client sessions and webinars.

These decisions weren’t easy. I love doing webinars, client sessions. Stopping these activities was a like cutting out parts of me and my mind was asking ‘Yes but what about the countless hours you put into those projects Bennie, and the love and passion that went into them? What about the people you used to help? What about the lost income?’

The more I asked myself ‘What do I TRULY love to do more than anything else’, the more things I cut out, the more I was able to focus on one area, the more things started flowing as a result, and the easier it become.

I finally realized that ‘Anything is possible’ doesn’t mean that you can do everything. By yourself. At the same time!

Since I’ve started saying ‘no’ to these activities and was able to focus more on my first love – training – doors and opportunities have opened that I could not even have imagined even a few short weeks ago. When I look back now it all seems so obvious!!

If you find yourself thinly spread, engaged in too many activities, frustrated or exhausted, or if you’ve been unable to become successful at something that you truly love, how about taking a risk, following your heart, and starting to cut other activities – even if it’s a bit scary, and risky?

Remember this simple truth: every nanosecond that you spend doing something else, is a nanosecond away from your passion and your dream.

Remember that no-one is coming to rescue you and that your life is unlikely to change ‘as if by magic’ unless you change.

As always, the best (and the only) time to change is NOW.

Energy flows where attention goes.

Where are you putting your attention today?

What are you ready and willing to say ‘No more’ to, so that you can say ‘Yes!!!!’ to your passion and your life?

Let me know how it goes!!

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I know, it sounds like the title of a book or a movie – ‘lunch with Jenny’!

Today I had lunch with the delightful Jenny Ibbotson, author of 2 books (including ‘The Obedient Universe), successful businesswoman, entrepreneur, speaker, practitioner, mother – to name a few.  One of the many reasons that I just love being around Jenny is her absolute feet-on-the-ground, practical approach to life, and the humble way in which she goes about life; never demanding and insisting on ‘the right way’, simply offering and sharing from her own experience – and always open to learning more!

Midway through our conversation over butternut and beetroot salad I said ‘THAT’s why I love working with you Jenny, because you GET this stuff!’

You see, I know few people who truly take responsibility for everything in their lives.  This is not saying that you ‘should’ take responsibility for everything in your life, I just know for me that it was only when I was willing to do that, that things started changing for me.

When I realised that anything was possible (which does not mean ‘I can do everything at the same time’).

When I stopped blaming the economy, or my past, parents, peers or partners – when I realised with every bone in my body that the buck stops with (and originates from!) the man in the mirror.  That even though I was to BLAME for nothing, I was RESPONSIBLE for everything in my life.

To me, that spells the way out of victim-hood and into freedom.

Jenny GETS this.  She lives and breathes it, she practices it, and she’s got the results to show for it.

I was so enthused by our conversation about creation, life, success and so-called ‘failure’, and the age old question of ‘why do I not yet have what I want’ – that I wanted to send you another reminder that Jenny has kindly made herself available to share with us what she knows, to guide and teach and to answer your question this coming

Thursday, 14 March at 8am London / 10am South Africa / 7pm Sydney.

Click here to register http://www.deepliving.com/services/webinars/jenny_ibbotson/

The call is offered to you on the basis that – only if you find it useful and valuable – you will make a donation to the amount and currency of your choice; if you cannot be on the call and would like Jenny to help, please email your question at least 2 hours before the call to bennie@deepliving.com.

You’ll also be able to download and keep the recording mp3 afterwards; register for the call and we’ll let you know how you can do that.

I look forward to being on the call with you to learn more from Jenny.

See you there and hugz all round!
Bennie

PS) Here’s the link again; click here to register and get the call access details http://www.deepliving.com/services/webinars/jenny_ibbotson/

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This is Part 7 in a series to help you get more of what you want, no matter how stuck you may have been!

Read the other parts here, all with tapping videos:

• Part 1:  Introduction
• Part 2:  Knowing What you Want
• Part 3: Being specific
• Part 4: Focus on WHAT (and forget the ‘HOW’!)
• Part 5: ‘Wanting’ versus ‘Having’
• Part 6: Why beliefs are like telephone wires
• Part 7: It’s got nothing to do with luck

HOW TO HAVE MORE OF WHAT YOU WANT PART 8: STOP TALKING ABOUT  THE ‘BAD THINGS’ THAT HAPPENED!

As you go about your day today, notice how many people talk (and complain) about, things that went ‘wrong’.

Here’s an example of what I mean:  I was in a shop this weekend.  The woman who runs the shop next door was chatting with the person who worked in the store I was.  For the approx 10 minutes that I was in that store, she was complaining non-stop about

• a client who wanted to buy something small with a large bank note
• a client who came in a few minutes before closing time to buy something, after she’d already closed down the cash register
• a client who approached her just after she’d locked up the shop and asked if she would open the store again

The negativity was oozing out of her so that it was palpable, almost like something heavy and toxic had just put into the atmosphere;  she was pretty indignant, how dare these ‘inconsiderate’ clients want to buy things from her in ways that aren’t convenient!

I considered warning her that if she continued down this trend, that pretty soon she’ll very likely have no clients at all!  Instead, I reminded myself that it was really none of my business and that she, like you and me, are free to choose who and how she wants to be.

AS YOU SOW…

Understand that whatever energy you put OUT comes BACK to you, one way or another.  The more you complain about things and resist what is (or was), the more things persist, the more you attract and create similar circumstances and experiences.

That’s a universal law and it applies to everyone.

Notice how much emphasis some people put on ‘negative’ events that have already passed and that they can’t change now…

• traffic that was ‘horrible’ and ‘horrendous’
• an ‘unfair’ referee
• someone else not treating them the way they’d have like to be treated
• a painful journey, delayed trains of planes
• bad service

I believe that we complain about these things (sometimes incessantly) for one reason and one reason only, and that is that we forget the power of our thoughts and words and that, whatever energy we put out, will come back to us in some way, shape or form.

If you are someone who habitually focuses on the negative and revel in telling stories about things gone wrong (the juicier, the more unfair, the more ‘wrong’ they were and the more justified and ‘right’ you are, the better!) and it’s working for you, then so be it.

However, if you want more positivity in your life I hope these 2 words will help … STOP IT!

Most people, when they read or hear something ‘bad’ on the news, will invest huge amounts of energy in thinking, feeling and talking about ‘the problem’.  If more people were to understand the power of their thoughts and words, and more people were to acknowledge ‘what is’ and then invested more energy in creating what they wanted instead, I truly believe that the world would be a much more prosperous, loving and joyful place.

There’s an important proviso that I also explain in the short video clip below;  be sure to watch it.

This is not a suggestion that we should pretend everything is fine when it’s not.  If things have been, or they are still, tough, then that’s how it is and we serve ourselves by being aware and honest about our experiences.

What I am suggesting is that the more you focus on ‘the problem’ – on the traffic and the scarcity and the unfairness and the struggle and on what’s NOT working  - the more you’ll create of the same.

So now you’re probably thinking, ‘What do I do then, and where do I go,when things haven’t gone my way, if I’m not supposed to to talk about it?!’

Here are a few tips to help turning your life around, and therefore life as we know it on this planet:

• Absolutely acknowledge what’s been happening and that it’s been tough, unpleasant or painful;  be honest with yourself because suppressing emotions can lead to all kinds of dis-ease…
• Use EFT (tapping) to help you release your fear, anger, resentment, guilt, blame, shame, sadness, regret, disappointment and other painful feelings you have about it – so that you can move to a place of acceptance, which is the starting place for transformation, for changing things
• Immediately also start focusing on what you want to have instead; think about what you’d like to be, do, have or feel instead … because what you focus on expands and the more you focus on it, you more you’ll get more of it.

This is a great example of applying the both/and principle in life, where you live in the place of saying ‘Yes such-and-such happened AND here’s what I choose instead.’

It’s not about denying your experience. 

It’s about saying ‘That’s been my experience, I acknowledge that, and now I choose to change it.  And the way to change it is first of all to choose what I’d like to have instead, and then to imagine my life being like that … NOW’.

It’s not because complaining is wrong.

It’s about understanding your power as a creator or your own reality.

It’s about taking responsibility for your own life, about choosing your thoughts and words, and about understanding that you do have the power to create something different.

VIDEO

Here’s a short video to help…

If this resonates with you and you want find out more about how to change things around in your own life, you can go to www.moneymakingmoves.net for Free Instant Access to a 2-hour training session.

Best wishes
Bennie

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15 Feb 2013

I am often struck by people’s reaction when something ‘bad’ happens.  (I put ‘bad’ in quotes because it is, in my experience, a very subjective word.  I, for example, am completely comfortable with death, and do not think it ‘bad’ when people die; more about that another day….)

At Schiphol airport a few months ago, a woman was talking on her mobile phone, and quite loudly so.  This was the gist of her conversation..

‘Oh noooooooooooooo!’
‘Ah you poor thing, that is so baaaaaaaad!’
‘That is just TERRRIBLE!!!’
Oh you SHOULD feel bad, yes!’

and so on.

Maybe you can relate to this.

I get that she was trying to help the person on the other end of the phone who sounded quite distraught.  I get that she was trying to empathise with the them.  I get that she was so caught up in the distress herself that she was just saying out loud what she was thinking and feeling.

I appreciate that it’s very easy to get sucked into conversations where you agree with everyone else how ‘bad’ (or terrible, or horrendous, or tough, or unfair, etc. etc.) something is that happened to others.

And, if you regard yourself as a conscious person (which you probably do if you read my posts!), then consider for a moment (if you believe in energy, or quantum physics, or creation) where the FOCUS of such conversations are.  Yep – on the ‘wrong’ and the ‘bad’ and the pain.

Consider that there may be a more effective way to help others who are in distress about something that happened to them … watch the clip below and find out!

After you’ve watched it and did it, why not submit your comments and tell me what happened!

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24 Jan 2013

OOPS!  Registration for the 2013 Tapping World Summit is officially open.

http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4954207

It already started a couple of days ago and I just remembered now that I’d not told you about it yet, so here it is – apologies for the late notice, and you can still get in.

I have told hundreds of people around the world about this event over the last few years and have heard from many of them that it’s really helped them to change their lives.  Also it’s totally free (yes, really). You do get the option to buy stuff, but if you just listen in, it’s totally free (and likely, life changing).

This is the 5th year that this event has run and last year there were over 500,000 people who registered and for good reason … because tapping works!!

If you dial in to the free calls you’ll learn exactly how to use Tapping for a variety of different issues so if you’re new to tapping you’re in for a treat (and probably a VERY nice surprise! for sure.  If you’re already familiar with tapping, you know there’s almost more to learn and experience and let’s face it, there’s always an area of your life that can do with a bit of tapping help!

This is a once-a-year event (already 2 days in) so you may want to check it out right away so you can learn how to use Tapping in your life, on yourself, when you need it the most – in the moment.

http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4954207

It’s bound to change your life, for the good.

Worth a try?

Me thinks so, so see you there!
Bennie Naude

PS) Here’s that link to your free registration again, click here http://thetappingsolution.com/cmd.php?Clk=4954207

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By Judit Thom from www.reflexologyexpert.org

How could Reflexology help Fertility?

Reflexology can help to improve your fertility by positively directing the flow of energy where it is needed.

If you are undergoing tests to find out the cause of infertility, need to undertake a course of fertility drugs, or are embarking on assisted conception such as IVF, ICSI, GIFT, or ZIFT, then Reflexology can absolutely be of great help to you as a supporting or complementary therapy.

Think about it … if your mind or body is stressed it is not optimally geared for conception; reflexology does not only assist your body physically, but just as importantly, it gives you appropriate mental support by helping you to develop the strength and positivity to be free from anxiety.

Having a relaxed mind and body is the way to give the treatment the best possible chance of succeeding.

Why is Maternity Reflexology so beneficial during pregnancy?

Pregnancy is a time when the mother needs to be nurtured and cherished, which is exactly what Maternity Reflexology does.

By promoting good circulation in the whole body, Maternity Reflexology helps ensure oxygen and other vital nutrients to reaching your baby.

Maternity Reflexology works to enable the mother to be in the best possible physical and emotional state to cope with the stress of the birthing experience.  Not only that, but Maternity Reflexology is well known for assisting the natural induction of labour, and help you make a good and a quick recovery afterwards.

So … if you are a mother, or mother-to-be, or want to be mother – Reflexology can help.

Contact Judit

Judit works in her clinic in Chiswick and Bedfork Park Pharmacy West London (W4) and also offers home visits.

If you are pregnant or would like to be, contact Judit for more information or to book sessions with her; just click here http://www.reflexologyexpert.org or email her help@reflexologyexpert.org

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Let me explain.

Saying ‘Yes’ to life is a FABULOUS idea.

Saying ‘Yes’ to new adventures, ditto.

And, sometimes flat-out saying ‘No’ may be the way to go to actually say an utter and resounding ‘Yes’ to yourself, to your values, your Higher Self, your calling, your happiness, your … fill the blank.

Consider this.

How about …

If you’re overweight, saying ‘NO’ to that regular extra helping of desert – in order to say YES to losing weight.

Saying ‘NO’ to friendships and relationships that no longer serve you – in order to say ‘YES’ to new and nourishing ones.

Saying ‘NO’ to doing those tasks that sucks up time and adds no value – so that you can say ‘YES’ to doing the things that mean something.

Saying ‘NO’ to the invitation that you do not wish to accept – as a way of saying ‘YES’ to yourself, your preferences, longings and desires

Saying ‘NO’ to those that constantly violate your boundaries – to say ‘YES’ to self-respect.

Saying ‘NO’ to the voice in your head that says you cannot be, do or have your dreams – to say ‘YES’ to creating what you want, say ‘YES’ to life!

Saying ‘NO’ to thoughts telling you that you are not good enough, smart enough or whatever enough – and say ‘YES’ to the truth that you have everything you need inside of you RIGHT NOW to shape your life the way you want it.

Saying ‘NO’ to the thoughts of sleeping later when the alarm goes off for your morning mediation or exercise session or whatever spiritual or alone time you long for – and say ‘YES’ to nurturing your soul.

I can come up with a million more examples but that’s not the point.

Here’s the point.

Over the next week, become aware of how many times you say ‘YES’ when actually, your heart longs  to say ‘NO’.

How about, for the next week, honouring who you are, and where you are, and trusting the ‘No’ that arises from within from time to time.

How about stopping thinking ‘I have to … ‘ or ‘I ought to …’  or ‘I should …’

How about starting to honour your wishes, your desires, your preferences, your boundaries, your values?

How about starting to respect yourself, and your ‘No’?

I know this can be scary at first.  And still, it’s a choice.  Your choice.

You see, the more you do that, the more you start shaping your life the way you want it to be, the more you step away from being a victim of life, the more you become the captain of your ship and the master of your destiny.

Now you could continue to say ‘Yes’ when you really want to say‘No’, but you know that comes with quite a heavy price-tag, don’t you?

I’ll write more soon about why it is that we sometimes say ‘Yes’ when we mean ‘No’ (and vice versa), and how tapping can help you become more true to yourself.

In the meantime, let me know on bennie@deepliving.com what happens this week when you start saying ‘Yes’ and ‘No’ in more honest ways!

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Healing takes place in the body and in the mind. The former is accelerated by medical professionals and the right treatment. However, healing in the mind is something that sub-consciously affects your complete being. You may have heard a number of stories where patients diagnosed with life-threatening ailments came out without a scratch. Many people put this down to a miracle and it is nothing short of that. However, this is possible for most people suffering from a deadly disease. Self-induced healing can really help you overcome obstacles that you thought were unsurpassable.

When one talks about this special kind of healing, it usually refers to psychological traumas. However, this is not always the case. Self-induced healing can also help you recover from diseases that could have seen you give up on life at the diagnosis stage itself.

There are a number of people who are diagnosed with cancer and feel like it is the end of the world. Yes, it is a life-taking disease but it is not something that cannot be overcome. Positive thinking can do a whole lot of good and that coupled with the right medical treatment has seen a number of people get rid of cancerous cells from their body. How does this take place?

There is a complex scientific description that will fly over most people’s heads but there is a simple explanation, as well. The brain is a powerful entity of the human body that does much more than control body parts. Once you start thinking positively, your body reacts accordingly and your immune system will begin to resist any disease that is threatening to take your life away. Many might find this hard to believe but all over the world, there are a number of medical miracles that baffle even the most experienced of doctors.

Psychological trauma can arise because of the loss of a loved one, breaking of a relationship, or any other incident that brings your world crashing down. The shock of such an incident can send people into a downward spiral, both physically and mentally. Psychologists will tell you that sicknesses can be caused because of immense mental turmoil and the healing needs to come from ‘inside’. That’s the only way a patient can help himself/herself.

When you find yourself falling into a deep abyss then you need to surround yourself with positive thoughts that will help you get out of this mess. The longer you wait, harder it is going to break away from the shackles of a trauma. Mental issues can affect your entire body and studies have shown that there is a direct relationship between the two.

Over the years, self-induced healing has come under the scanner because a lot of people are still skeptical about its results. However, a little research will help you come across a number of cases where it has helped a number of patients recover from medical and mental situations that were bleak to say the least. Stay positive and get back on track.

Lumenz Networks connects communities worldwide with practical expert answers in HD video to common questions about personal and professional well-being

Video:  http://lumenznetworks.com/topic/self-induced-healing

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