Why we do porn

Now that’s a great question.

The answer will probably surprise you, because the root cause of porn use is NOT, as you may think, sexual.

Actually, the main reason why you get stuck in a porn-cycle is partly physical, and partly unresolved emotional stuff. 

Once you get going (so to speak) with internet pornography, it kicks off some very important physiological changes in your brain which is why so many men are addicted to internet porn today and why it is so difficult to get off the porn-wagon – even with the best will in the world and all of the best of intentions.

The good news is that the techniques you’ll learn here at The Laughing Monkey takes care of the emotional as well as physical aspects of your porn cravings.

Here are the 5 most common reasons why men do internet porn:

  • it’s a reward after a tough day/week/month (except they don’t actually feel so great afterwards…)
  • they’re having a tough time and want to get away from painful feelings like overwhelm, stress, loneliness, depression, sadness, shame, guilt, anger etc; porn offers a fabulously effective escape! (Uhh, temporarily, of course; porn doesn’t address the problem, it just postpones it and can make it worse – ask any ostrich…)
  • they’re having an unsatisfactory, boring or non-existent sex life with their partners or they have no sexual partners at all and it’s sometimes the only, best, quickest or safest way to get their sexual needs met – or so it seems…
  • it’s the only way they can get an erection or have an orgasm. (No it’s not; it’s just that they haven’t resolved the root cause why they’re having the problem in the first place)
  • let’s face it, it feels great while you do it!! (well, it does!)

Porn (and especially internet porn) is great at helping us forget the world, our problems and our difficult feelings. For a while. 

The only problem with ‘for a while’ is that as long as your underlying (and usually unconscious) reasons for doing porn remains unresolved you’re likely to stay stuck in the cycle of porn – visiting more porn sites – which often leads to more emotional ‘stuff’ like worry, despair, disappoinment, guilt or shame about being powerless and addicted to porn, and beating yourself up for doing it (which is, I can assure you, the least effective way of trying to overcome your internet pornography addiction!)

The good news is that you don’t have to try and force yourself to stay off porn (good luck with that!) because if you’re reading this you’ve probably already tried willpower and found that maybe you could stay porn-free for a day, a week or a month…

More good news is that, as you apply the techniques available to you here at The Laughing Monkey you will resolve the underlying emotional ‘stuff’ – even if you’re not sure what the ‘stuff’ is that I keep talking about – and your desire for internet porn will naturally dissipate and eventually disappear, and your internet porn addiction will be but a distant memory.

Sounds too good to be true, right? I agree!

However… one last thing before we look into the solution:  ever wondered WHY it feels so good to do internet porn, and why you can do much of it even when you’re tired?

The answer is at the very core of your wiring as a man, and then there’s this chemical called dopamine (also called the ‘craving’, the ‘I-must-have’ or the ‘addiction’ molecule) – all very interesting…

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